Don’t Freak Out if You’re Not Lusting After a Baby

You Don’t Have to Be Selfish, Shallow, or Self-Absorbed to Decide Not to Become a Parent

Why do some adult men and women choose not to have kids? Los Angeles Times columnist Meghan Daum had only seen the topic addressed in a “really glib, flippant way.” Even people who have made this choice themselves frequently answer that they prefer expensive vacations and cars to children. But for many, including Daum herself, it’s not a black-and-white decision but a choice that exists in a gray area. To get at the complexity and complications of this decision, Daum decided to assemble and edit an anthology, Selfish, Shallow, and …